Pesach is the time to celebrate freedom. But what’s free about arriving to the seder feeling alone, unappreciated, exhausted and disconnected?
Nothing. Maybe a memory of the maror and tears, but that’s not what Pesach is about.
Real freedom is royal. Real freedom feels like dignity. Peace. Connection. Happiness.
Your marriage is supposed to feel good. That’s real freedom.
When I asked myself how I want to support women as we head into the pesach season, it was very clear.
I want you to sit at the seder table like the queen that you are.
When you wear your new robe, usher in the Seder with your candle lighting, and sit down with your family at the white tablecloth, I want you to feel regal.
- Free.
- Royal.
- Dignified.
- Respected.
- Cherished.
- Connected.
- Happy, content, peaceful.
- Redeemed.
B’zchus Nushim will get you there.
Do you have resentment toward your husband for something very real?
Is your communication like two people talking different languages, or no language at all?
Has your trust been broken and you’re not sure how to rebuild it?
Are you misunderstood by your husband, and by far not appreciated at the level that you should be?
Do you disagree with your husband on basic, important issues, like how to raise the children, deal with the finances?
Are you deeply disappointed in your spouse and the choices he keeps making?
Do you wish you can hear more appreciation, kindness or love?
Do you try to navigate criticism or anger only to get thrown off course again and again when there is conflict?
You may have tried traditional therapy, marriage counseling, being “mevater” and just moving on with a bleeding heart.
But it didn’t work.
It’s not supposed to.
What I found in helping many women heal their long painful marriage, is that working “on” the marriage doesn’t work. It’s simply taking the old pain and moving it from side to side, upside down, and all around. You end up running in circles. Have you ever felt like you’re just running in a circle, back to the same cycle again? It’s like when I had cleaning help, and she used an old, foul smelling rag to clean up the kitchen counters. It doesn’t work!
The real work is going beyond the current drama and understand how powerful, how beloved, how stunningly perfect you are. That’s how you lift up, off the old pain, off the old drama, into a whole new way of being.
If you’ve never understood your own power in the marriage, you haven’t even begun! And you’re already tired from trying so hard.
But there’s a better way. You are about to learn it. When you learn this new way, you will
Know how to communicate clearly and effectively.
Feel validated and understood.
Partner with your husband.
Get complimented.
Be unafraid and at peace.
Be fully yourself.
Be able to say no with kindness.
Expect your husband to love, support and be kind to you.
Stop walking on eggshells.
Accept your husband.
And be the royal, beautiful, powerful queen that you are, embodying freedom, elegance and poise.
