I wrote this letter to chany and asked her to share it with you to give you Chizuk and  inspiration to obtain a beautiful marriage that you’re all so deserving of. I’m coming from a place that was so hurt and in so much pain just a few weeks ago that I never believed I had a chance at full happiness again. I joined your course cuz I was at rock bottom and felt I had nothing to lose. I always felt that I am such a good person and it’s soo not fair that I landed in this marriage.

It started with such subtle changes from my part. It started with the self care and self loving that you taught us to have for ourself. I always thought I did self care but this course taught me so much more! It gave me the confidence to ask for things that I never felt secure asking for previously. Surprisingly enough my husband responded to it so  eagerly I was blown away. I also now realize  how so much is in the hands of the woman but not in the way we’ve been taught previously, which was we have to be there for our husbands. This was so different and refreshing. Chany you taught us to be there for ourselves and to make our husbands feel secure with us not to feel challenged and scared of us. You gave me the empowerment I needed and still need to first be there for myself but also to understand our husbands insecurities. Amazingly enough all of a sudden my husband is doing things for me he hasn’t done in 20 years.  We  recently celebrated our anniversary. This was always one of the most painful days for me. This year bh bh due to the tools I now had and to the empowerment I felt,  we celebrated our anniversary in the way I always envisioned but never experienced. Another win was when we came up to the country last night and for the first time in 20 years my husband helped me unpack boxes without me even asking. He also didn’t let me shlep any of the boxes when that’s what I’ve been doing all these years. I have tears in my eyes thinking about it. It’s the first time in many years that I was actually sad when he left to the city. I used to wait for him to leave… I have so much hakares hatov to you  and can’t stop thanking the heilige bashefer for sending me your way. I know there will still be hurdles along the way. But I also feel with all that you’ve taught us I’ll be able to overcome them.  Im looking forward with the eibishters help to continue working to fully reclaim the marriage I always dreamed of. Chany the zchis zal dir beishtein for all your help and for helping me thru it all!

Prominent Talmid chochim & Mechaber Seforim

Dear Chany,

II am writing to you out of sheer gratitude. It’s hard for me to express the flutters I feel In my heart these days. I can feel  it replacing the pain and heaviness I was constantly carrying around.

I’ll be honest when I heard about this course I was skeptical.  Very skeptical.  I have tried so many things and didn’t have the energy to raise my hopes again.  I felt like my marriage was a lost case. Every period of “good times” was to be followed by an even longer period of struggling, strife, anger and hurt. I felt  ashamed, abandoned and most of all lonely.  My smile was pasted on my face but inside I was scowling to the world.  I felt confused why me, i was the the top the girl supposed to marry the top bachur. What happened?

But bh thanks to this course I feel reborn, I’m lighter, I’m happier I’m freer! I wake up  everyday with a real smile ready to tackle my day. Its indeed magic how my husband wants to connect with me in a way I haven’ dared to dream.  The little things I started noticing and then the big things are things I’ve asked him for years to do but he never understood why he should do it for me. All of a sudden he is doing all these things plus more.   I was constantly  stressed out of working on things I knew bothered him about me. I took upon myself 40 days to work on this middah and that flaw, it didn’t bring about lasting results.

This course is different I still find it hard to believe that simply by returning to myself  my husband is running after me! Chany you’re amazing and your guidance is just so validating and encouraging!

I used to beg him to make me a coffee shabbos morning this past shabbos he took care of the kids and comes to me with a coffee to my bed!  He wanted to connect and be with me  almost every single night!  He wanted to go to a gym class 930 PM. but gave me the choice when I want to go to  sleep,  making it up to me whether he should go or not.   He is doing things I always wanted like reviewing my sons parsha questions and singing  nice songs at the shabbos table.  I feel like he listens to me now but seriously not like in the old ways with an half ear.  Also yesterday he left his phone in car by mistake during supper and when he realized,  he didn’t run to take it.  I was like wow! Instead of me begging put your phone away he is doing it willingly!   Sunday he came to me in work to bring me a coffee and something I left home , he wouldn’t you’ve done it in the past as a whole favor but now he did it gladly!

The list grows longer everyday bh and I believe what your saying that’s it’s only up and up , not up and down because it feels so real.   The amazing part is that through rediscovering myself and connecting with myself I’ve been able to connect in other relationships much better as well. I feel like the old me is back.  I’m able to use my talents, Enjoy being the social butterfly I was. Reconnect with my friends like the good old ways.  I feel the flutters in my heart Healed, lighter and freer!

Thanks for the bottom of my heart.

Hillel K.

Things have been so busy and we’ve been traveling back and forth because we’re moving so there’s a lot going on and it’s exciting b”h! That’s part of my shefa story! I am getting paid over the summer for my old job and I’m not even working! I told them they didn’t have to pay me (especially because we’re moving) and they said they were going to do it anyway. I’m definitely open to receiving… and we are moving because I got an amazing job! So yes it’s quick, but the opportunity came up so last minute and it’s part time, which is what I wanted so I can still be a mother and wife first, and I will be making more than I have been making which I am super excited about! I feel like for the first time in my life I have money… This is my first real job part time where I will be making more than I’ve ever made before so I am very excited! So we’re moving for the job, but we’ve been wanting to move anyway, I feel stuck where we currently live so I feel like this is a win win on SO many levels!!! I cannot tell you enough how much I’ve enjoyed your courses and how they have been transformational in every area of my life, especially my marriage.

Thank you!!!

Eli M.