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Chelkech is a transformative program designed for women who are seeking to enhance and deepen their relationships.
Oftentimes women experience conflict between their understanding of what a “good wife” should be, and their actual feelings within the relationship.
This program invites you to take a look at yourself and develop change within yourself and your marriage – without waiting for the cooperation of others. It is a direction towards fostering self-awareness and emotional independence, and creating healthy connection and fulfillment in the relationship.
Chelkeich focuses on you โ guiding you to accept and embrace your identityย while experiencing trueย Torah marriage values. You will learn how to shift the dynamics of your relationship by discovering and understanding what it is that you contribute to your marriage.ย
Every person, every relationship and every marriage is unique in its own beauty, patterns and dynamics. The chelkech program gives you the foundation of the dynamics of all relationships and marriage,ย with the space and opportunity for you to explore yourself, and progress along your individual and personal journey.
Chelkeich is here to give you the opportunity to resolve specific frustrations or triggers and deepen your relationship.
Chelkeich is here to take you on a steady, peacefulย journey towards clarity, inner peace, confidence and calmness.
When you become exactly who you are, he becomes what he is, and the marriage becomes what it is supposed to be.
Topic 1: Self Value, The First Foundation of Marital Dynamics
Most of the challenges in our relationships are based in some way on a lack of self worth. By the end of this lesson you will be on the path to reclaiming your self-love and acceptance and discover the results in your marriage.
Topic 2: The Hidden Expectations
In this lesson we will discuss how to develop healthy expectations that lead to positivity and respect in the home. You will learn how to enable those around you to bring out the best of themselves.
Topic 3: Kavod, The Second Foundation of Marital Dynamics
Many times our behavior seems respectful and caring but it doesn’t achieve the results we want. In this lesson you will learn the fine lines that make all the difference and allow you to enjoy the Bracha that true respect generates.
Topic 4: More aspects on Kavod
Here you will learn how to let go of judgment and criticism. You will discover that it is possible to respect your husband’s choices – even when they do not seem right to you – without paying prices or making sacrifices. After this lesson you will also know how to deal with criticism directed at you.ย
versions of destructive relationships. We will clearly define how healthy connection, belonging, and closeness are different from unhealthy dependency and control. You will discover how to achieve the changes you’ve always dreamed of and seemed to be unrealistic – in a surprising way.
Topic 5: Differentiation, The Third Foundation of Marital Dynamics
In this lesson we will discuss different versions of destructive relationships. We will clearly define how healthy connection, belonging, and closeness are different from unhealthy dependency and control. You will discover how to achieve the changes you’ve always dreamed of and seemed to be unrealistic – in a surprising way.
Topic 6: The Practical Path to Differentiation
We will demonstrate and illustrate from everyday life the concept of โDifferentiationโ which can create deep and true changes on the ground. The lesson shows how emotional Independence is the key to closeness and how to create change in the relationship without rocking the boat. In this lesson you will receive powerful tools for rehabilitating relationships that have deteriorated over the years.
Topic 7: Responsibility, The Fourth Foundation of Marital Dynamics
Understand what is truly your responsibility and release yourself from burdens that do not belong to you. Many unnecessary arguments happen when there is lack of clarity in managing responsibilities. You will come out of this lesson knowing how to conduct mature and healthy dialogue from a position of personal responsibility.
Topic 8: Communication
This lesson teaches you how to communicate. With the tools you’ll receive you will BEZโH be able to allow closeness and share your emotions, without creating unnecessary dramas. The results are fascinating, honest and primarily life-changing.
Topic 9: Setting boundaries
Setting boundaries is essential for relationships, yet it has the potential to bring about resentment and conflict. Lesson 9 will teach you to recognize the triggers that lead to boundaries being crossed. You will also learn how to set boundaries in a calm and friendly manner that does not contradict devotion and loyalty.
Topic 10: Manipulations
Who likes being emotionally manipulated? When we examine our relationships we may be surprised to find what manipulations are taking place. In this lesson you will learn how to identify manipulations and stop them. You will also learn how to wean yourself off using them.
Topic 11: A Yiddishe Wife
In this lesson, we will deal with the conflicts of a Jewish wife from a Torah perspective. You will come out with Clarity and peace of mind so that you can enjoy every moment of being a Yiddishe wife.
Topic 12: The Final Destination: Love
The culmination of the course is learning what love is and what it is not. You will emerge then understanding and excitement about the Kedusha of marriage which will BEZโH give you a basis for a brand new experience!
Zlaty Rosenthal, founder of Chelkech, lives in Yerushalyim with her family of 8 lovely children. In addition to her busy family life and supporting the Torah lifestyle, Zlaty dedicates her time to counsel and teach women towards more fulfilling relationships. She is highly recommended by the Kossover Rebbetzin, and has the haskamah of HaRav Yisroel Ganz of Yerushalayim.
Q –ย Isn’t 24 weeks quite a long time for a course?
A This course is not about tools and rules of dos and donts. This is a course about understanding the dynamics of a relationship, and the part you play in it. There is lots of new information, understanding and discovery. As a matter of fact, the lessons are available for a full year after the course is completed, because change and growth is a process: it doesnt happen overnight. Every time you listen, theres a different part of you that is ready to hear, and expand.ย
Q – What if I only want the lessons, forget about the Q&A sessions? I am anyway not the type to speak up in public and ask questions.
A It is in the Q&A sessions that true movement and growth happens!!ย You gain personal direction and clarity, and you greatlyย benefit even if you are only listening to someone elseโs experience. Itย provides you with an opportunity to see how others implement the information into their personal lives, which is the purpose of the course.
There is an option of leaving your question in the office in advance of the session, and it will be answered during the session.
Q – There are so many courses on relationship out there. What sets you apart from so many others?
A We cannot talk about the content of other courses, but Chelkech is unique in the sense that itempowers women to create transformation in their marriage – without waiting for the cooperation of the spouse. It is not about changing him, neither does it need to be about changing herself – the focus is to take a look at the dynamics between the two, and create the change over there.ย
Q – Can this help if I am living with aย spouse that suffers from an emotional or mental disorder?
A In the case of a true disorder, the woman will not heal her husbandโs disorder by taking the course. She will acquire the tools to gain fulfillment and joy in the relationship, and find shalom in her heart and home.
Q – I want to join the course but I can’t pay it all upfront.ย Is there an installment plan?
A – Yes, please contact Ohel Miriam at (845) 659-4795
The Foundational Course will give you a strong foundation on the dynamics of relationships, mastering your role in it, which in turn will bring confidence and contentment into your heart, and shalom into your home. The course is a 24 week program, alternating between informative lessons and Question & Answer sessions, accessible by phone or by zoom. The lessons are divided into 12 topics, each topic divided into smaller sessions for easy, comfortable and organized listening.ย The Q and Aย session is an opportunity to come on live and present your situation to Zlaty, where you will Bโezras Hashem get personal guidance in dealing with it.ย All classes will be recorded, and available for you to listen and re-listen, for up until 1 year after course completion, giving you the opportunity to experience change and growth at your individual pace.ย ย
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